Compiled by Rukayat Shittu and Hanifat Ismail
Life is beautiful and miraculous, and it’s wonderful. But there is one thing, life isn’t easy. There are times when it is more apparent than others. We don’t always make it any easier on ourselves either; we hold onto notions and habits that are incorrect, absurd, or even harmful to us. We walk through life refusing to see simple truths because we’re worried they’ll be too hard to bear, without realizing that accepting them will make every day much easier and much more joyful.
Acceptance is a fundamental prerequisite to growing as a human being because without accepting your current reality and yourself, real growth is almost impossible.
On this week JUST EVENT ONLINE ‘ PenYourComment, several people with different reasons shared with us, the hardest truth that made them much stronger and is ready to face reality.
According to Zubair Adenike Fatimah, she said “Life is not always fair. I used to think being a good person will make people good to me. That I have good intentions towards someone doesn’t mean they’ll have the same, even when they know what my intention is. I still have to carefully select friends and who I associate with, be sure to an extent the kind of person that they are and how they treat me.”
Basheer Luqman Olarewaju in his submission on the question noted that “While growing up, he had many thoughts about family, friendship and relationships, but at this stage, he understands that, family is not only about blood; the relationship is not about how close we are; friendship is not about who we speak to often.
Until life teaches us itself, we wouldn’t appreciate it.”
On the same view, Jacob Ibukun OluwaTosin shared that her mum’s death implies her firmness about life and made her to always accept reality.
“My Mum’s death oh
It made me stronger and accept life the way it is
It made me view life from different angles”
Yeri Peter, said “the kind of shocking betrayal he received from a trusted person made him stronger and let go so many things
Similarly, Rihanat OnaOpe said, she was told by a lecturer that if she thinks she can graduate from her former university but presently she is now a graduate without any extra year or carries over the course(s)
“I was told by a lecturer that do I think I will graduate but I pray, read heard, and showed him nothing is impossible.”
Ibrahim, in his submission, said he accept never to rely on people, which made him Independent and bold.
Motunrayo Shittu being quoted, “the hardest truth that made me accept reality, is I have experienced betrayals from a lot of people whom I entrusted myself with, I have always tended to care, sought out for people before myself but ever since, am always at the forefront of myself before anybody, I do no longer go far for people than my capacity, because at the end; humans will still cut the line by not appreciating your how well
People don’t care about you. They care about the thing they can get from you, If many people are flocking around you, you are either predator or prey.
I do not show sympathy for people I billed for consuming my services because they’ll never be sympathetic to me when consuming my effort, Never, ever, I’ll waste my time on someone who has nothing to offer.
Pain is the greatest source of strength”
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In the same vein, Ishaq Muritala Kayode wrote ” “Experience is the best teacher when you learn from the lines. No event passes without experience.
My struggle in my life started when I sat for the GCE exam in the year 2000. I got five credits but unfortunately, government and Yoruba subjects were not included. Practically as an Art student, the result is not useful. I went back to my school where I had said goodbye to my mate and sat for WAEC AND NECO, glory be to God, I cleared the results with 8-9 credits respectively.
Another tedious journey started when I was seeking University of Ilorin admission. This thistle drilled me and wasted my complete four years and despite that, I never denied myself.
Along the line, one Lecturer at the College of Arabic and Islamic studies, Mr. Tayo Moyosore advised me to enroll myself into a citadel of learning where a diploma certificate will be awarded. I got admission to CailS after an entrance examination and I was offered Mass Communication. During this course, the struggle to enter university continues as I wrote another Jamb exam where I scored below their requirement but two of my close friends were given admission, the moment was a very bad and hard time for me. It’s a very critical and serious experience because I was left alone.
I graduated in the year 2005 and got the opportunity to secure an appointment as a clerical officer on salary grade level 04. The result that I underrated got me opportunities not only for admission but also secured me an appointment. I enrolled myself in university.
Which indicates no achievement is small or big, you can achieve if it’s destined to be yours, that’s the reality”
So a little bit of this context, we can say as long as you are not aligned with truth, you are operating on a wrong perception of reality. That means you are in denial of how your reality is, knowingly or unknowingly. It is like trying to find a house in a city while using a map of another city. You simply can’t get to where you want to be this way.
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